Erotic Fiction

Recently I have started writing erotic fiction.  I have always wanted to get into the porn business, but the picture and video type has such a huge negative stigma attached to it.  Writing is fairly anonymous, has a lower risk threshold, and is easier to keep the wife from worrying about “fringe benefits” that the other type could involve.

Erotic fiction is porn for the brain.  You get to escape the images forced on you by movies and pictures.  Everyone can look exactly the way you want them to.  You can even substitute some faces and bodies that you know for the people in the stories.  In movies, it always seems like the camera is not really part of the action – you are always an audience to the events.  In stories, most are written first person, so most everything is happening from the personal perspective.

I saw on a message board that someone had posted a dirty story, and I didn’t see until later that I knew the email address it came from.  Out of boredom, I had read the story, and was surprised that it had captured my interest in a way I had not known for years.  I thought this was like the stories you read in porn magazines, only in ways that were believable.  I was intrigued.  I looked around some more and found that the same email address had posted other stories too.  Hooked, I went and looked up other websites that offer stories to read.  I read A LOT of them.

Not too long after that, without thinking I was doing it, I started coming up with story ideas in my mind.  To make the voices go away, I wrote down what I was thinking.  Then I couldn’t stop.  It’s like trying to dam a small stream by standing in the middle of it.  That only works for a bit.  Then it pools up and ends up finding another way out.  I couldn’t stop the story.  I had to finish the words I had started.  Once I finished the first one (and going over it a few times to fix stuff), I felt relieved.  It was out of my system.  Or so I thought.  Once I got the first one done, there were suddenly five more bursting at the seams!  Dammit!  Well, out they came.

Once the dam on the little river had finished bursting, I felt better.  I thought I was done.  Just to see if anyone else thought they were any good, I conned my wife into reading them, having her think that they were from someone else.  Surprisingly to me, she liked them.  Wow, was she ever shocked when she found they were from me.  Since then I have signed up for a site that hosts them for me so many others can read them too.  I’ve actually got good responses, and encouraged to do more.

Since I’m still new at this, I’m not really all that good, but I do think I am improving.  I have an account at Literotica.com like many other aspiring dirty authors do.  Since everything that I write is copywrited to me, I still have the “rights” to it, just like we have here at WordPress.com.

The bad part about this writing is that I can’t tell many people about it.  It’s like regular porn – only a select few people can know about it so that not everyone thinks I’m a freak.  I know one person in my family that has done some porn that contain movies.  MANY people know about it, and they all talk behind her back about how gross/funny/wrong/etc that it is.  I don’t really care!!!  I would rather not see the video(s?) with her, but I have no problems that she has done them.  But the stigma is there.  She will always be the one people talk about with “remember when she did porn?”  And I really don’t see that happening in a good way.  I just write stories.  No big deal, right?  It’s easy enough for someone to not pay attention to the author name on it.

You should really head over to http://www.literotica.com.  Your brain will thank you for it.

Drity Stories

Are they really just stories, or are they pornography for the brain?  Different strokes for different folks, they say.

I have tried my hand at writing some of them and have come to limited success, but only according to random people online.  So my value as a “smut author” (as I have been called for writing these stories) is entirely based on the opinions of a few dozen readers on a few websites that cater to these types of stories.

On these same adult story websites, I have read through a number of other stories and was actually rather disappointed in what I found.  With a few exceptions, there were roughly a dozen or so concepts, all written about the same type of way.  The physical aspects of the characters were usually about the same, and the primary difference was just in the names these people had.  This lack of originality was one of the factors that encouraged me to try to write some myself.  Looking back, I think some of the negative reviews I received was because I broke away from “the norm” several times.  Not all the women had blonde or red hair, nor did they all wear 44DDD bras.  Not all the men were massively muscled, or had an exotic accent, or a 18 inch “love tool.”  Fine, they weren’t porn actors / actresses, the were not surgically enhanced, they were just, ummm, seemingly normal people.  Some variations would be nice.

All that aside (like me bitching about bad reviews), I am still kind of curious as to why written porn is not looked upon as much as visual porn (pictures & movies).  From the stories that have the best reviews from the most people, my “normal people, mostly normal sex” stories was too boring.  The best reviews come from the ones relating to rape, incest, bondage, hypnotism, and orgies.  Visual depictions of these same subjects are usually regarded as some of the least politically correct topics.  I can see why *showing* a rape is not good, even when the subjects are paid actors.  However, reading these same topics is only words on paper, and is therefore OK?  What is really worse?  Watching something is easy on the brain – you don’t have to ‘work’ to observe the action, you just look.  On the other hand, reading this same material lets you make these same stories come to life in your mind.  You put faces, bodies, and voices to the action.  You no longer notice that “the 18 year-old babysitter” is a 30-year old woman with that looks young.  That babysitter is the actual babysitter!  Or the girl down the street.  The “girl next door” is no longer a 5-year veteran of XXX action – she honestly *IS* the girl next door.

Whether you equate pornography as a sexual aid, or a replacement for the physical act of sex, it is still involved with physical reationships.  Porn’s listing as a “danger” or “bad thing” is debatable, but used under the wrong circumstances, by the wrong people, it can damage relatonships.  Specifically, the part of giving substance to the written word.  Most people cannot read something describing physical activity without picturing that same activity.  And what better actor / actress to use than someone the reader is already familiar with?  It’s kind of hard to replace a video or still picture with another body or face.  Most videos and pictures don’t use many special effects, so most things are done live, and not modified (much) after shooting.  The text-based format though, has no such limitations.  Anything can be done, regardless if it can be physically done or not.  While making your imagination work is usually good for you, is it just as good if it is used in a way that can be forming a bad habit, or twisting the realm of realism compared to fantasy life?

Some people like reading these stories because it describes fantasies that they would never try in real life.  They live vicariously through these words.  I have seen where men get in trouble by their women (usually a wife) for watching porn.  However, the female would react in various ways, none of which was positive.  On the other had, these same women see nothing wrong with reading porn.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying we should get rid of it, regulate it, etc.  Leave it in place, and let everyone who wants to enjoy it do so.  It is still porn, don’t try classifying it as something else.

Equal Rights for Flashing

At a party recently, a few girls flashed their boobs to their friends.  A few guys got a view too, but no one really seemed to mind – especially the guys.  The girls didn’t think it was a big deal, they said “it’s just boobs.”  This started the comparison questions.  Not an argument, no attitudes, just confused. Alcohol was involved, so it got silly too…  (no, not like that!)

When I asked my girl if she would be upset if I flashed my cock-n-balls, she said she would.  She equated it to her giving everyone a view by lifting her dress (sans panties).  Ok, a front view of what is under the undergarments.  Just the reproductive organs  That’s equal.  How about mooning?  Just the cheeks, no hidden surprises.  Well, a rear end is a rear end.  That’s equal.  So what about the boobs?  No, moobs don’t count.  Sorry.  No one likes those.

So what’s the equality for flashing boobs?  Are guys just S.O.L. when it comes to a quick flash?  The girls at the party seemed to think boobs were OK, but nothing else.  I heard some comments about wanting some guys to flash, but their girlfriends immediately said ‘no’ – these were the same girls who had just flashed other people.  It comes down to the equality part they said.  A boob shot does not equal either a crotch shot or a  rear end.  It’s OK for one gender but not the other?

So why is it that it’s OK for girls to flash, but not guys?  In most states, it’s illegal to do, no matter what your gender.  But it’s usually overlooked.  Girls get cheered on by the guys for the show, but guys have girls calling the cops to get arrested for indecent exposure.

Just us girls…

I’m a guy, but i usualy hang out with more girls than guys.  NO, I’m not gay, and NO, i’m not out to make moves on the girls – i just usualy get along better with them.  They are my friends.  Also, my girlfriend likes to brag to her friends about how great of a guy i am, and she tells me that her friends wish they had a guy like me.

Maybe it’s because I’m too mellow, or that I think I’m kinda modest, but usually, i don’t get along with most of my friend’s husbands and boyfriends.  It seems like all of them are arrogant, and they all know everything about everything.  They are the master of every subject, and they are the best at everything.  I know I’m really ignorant of many of the areas they are “genuises” at, and I know I have a lot of faults.  I try, but I really can’t get along with them for very long.  One by one, I get along allright, but get a couple of them together, and within 5 minutes, i get squeezed out since I don’t talk the same and act the same.  So I wander off by myself, and usually end up in the same area as the girls.  I would prefer this wasn’t the case, but I usually work better in situations where I’m accepted.

The problem is  that my girlfriend has seen how this personality trait works out, she is changing.  We have been together for a couple years, but in the past year or so, she has started changing.  Now, she is acting more and more like the guys I can’t hang out with very long.  She’s getting arrogant.  She’s taking stuff for granted.  She’s starting to look down on me; it’s like we are no longer equals but she thinks she is “King Shit of Turd Hill” or something.  She meshes great with the arrogant guy group, but since she’s a girl, she hangs out wiht the girl crowd too.  But she brings the arrogant jerk attitude from one group to the other.  Just like the other group, there can be NO silence – if there is any quiet time, she must take the opportunity to start talking just so she can hear her own voice.  This is so incredibly aggravating!

As much as I hate being branded as being  ‘a girly man’ just for not being a self-centered ass, I think it’s about time to change into that jerk.  I guess the only way for me to get some equality back in my own relationship, I must become an asshole.  No more associating with people where we can just hang out.  No more Mr. Nice Guy.

I think this relationship is on it’s way out, so I guess i will just use it for an experiment. I have already started acting the part of the jerk.  Now I am more important than her.  She’s an after-thought.  It’s perfectly fine for me to throw a fit when she doesn’t like being under my thumb all the time.  It’s OK for do anything I want, without regard for her, whenever I want, and to get mad at her for daring to question me about it.  I am doing my best to be a controlling, arrogant, self-centered jerk.  You know what?  It’s starting to work.  I miss my friends though.

So much for being men and women being equals in the relationship.  The guy can try to make sure they are equals, and the girl will do her best to run everything.  Or, she can get put down into the submissive role. We started out equals, but it turns out she just got power hungry.  She thought anything less than total control equals being a submissive slave.

I talked to a friend of mine a few days ago, and he said he had the same experience.  A few details different, but the same general situation, same general outcome.  Turns out they split up because she couldn’t handle going back to the previous situation.

Moral of the story?  I guess nice guys DO finish last.  Just like in high school, the nice guys got walked all over.  The jocks ruled.  Forget being nice, there is no “equals” in the relationship.  If I’m an ass, now you know why.  I’m tired of this “equal” bull crap.  I win for a while, then you’re gone.  Thanks for the experience.

American Prudes

Why is it that our media sources (TV and magazines) are so tightly bound as to what they’re not allowed to say and/or print? In a nation that was formed on Christian ideals and morals, it seems we’ve already thrown out every other thing with religious backing. We’re down to cussing on TV? Or showing a boob or a butt? Yes, they can be shown, but they have to be “rated” as to not disease the minds of our nation’s youth. Are you kidding me? Are you telling me that a 10-year old kid will suffer mental distress if he/she sees a naked butt? Or if she/he hears the word “damn” on TV? Give me a break! Some people are just too high-strung for their own good. I guess nudity like this are just too much for young minds to handle…

Let’s take a look at how this all started:

Back in the 1700’s and 1800’s when the USA was young, it was considered lewd and dirty for women to flash a bit of their ankles or calves. Lacy stockings was a major turn-on and were reserved for the bedroom or “those types” of bars in the red light district. Over the years, everything has progressed as the world / country got more “civilized.” Like many other things, society became a little more accepting of people showing skin. By the early 1900’s people were still rather modest, but times were changing. By the 1950’s, female ankles and calves were still cute, but were shown off daily – in school, at the store, dances, etc.

Dancing had gone from a square dance after the cattle drive was done to a sock hop for the senior prom – and in the span of around 50 years. There will still burlesque shows with dancing ladies, but the amounts of clothing had really started going away. Fast forward another 50 years, and middle-school kids are dry-humping on the dance floor. The amount of the male’s clothing hadn’t changed too horibly much, but the amount of the female’s clothes had gone waaaaay down. The professional (exotic) dancing women used to be fully dressed – now they start off with almost nothing, and progressed to absolutely nothing.

This whole time, there was also a thriving trade in pornographic pictures; when the technology was available, porn came to moving pictures too. Since then, porn has been on the forefront of all the newest technologies: VHS, Beta, DVD, the internet, etc. Some people also say that porn was one of the driving factors in helping these technologies evolve. In addition to visual stimulation, there is also a significant amount of interest in “adult toys” and clothing. There is currently a huge market in this area.

Human and animal species continue their survival by sexual means. Humans are the only known species that uses sex for any reason other than procreation; for example: fun. Humans are hooked on not just the act of sex, but on the ideas, thoughts, images, and even the possibility of sexual relations. Sex, and it’s non-intercourse replacements, is also addictive – many people are addicted to either sex or porn.

Each culture has it’s own ideas as to what constitutes “normal” regarding sex and images of the naked body. To this day, some people think that a woman even showing her face or hands is taboo; on the other end of the spectrum, other cultures think nothing of having areas (beaches, etc) set aside for allowing people to walk around completely naked. In the US, we’re somewhere in the middle, but leaning towards the more prudish side of it. Still, in all these cultures, there are sex-related crimes; the most recognizable being rape and molestation. These are things done by someone to someone. It’s a personal violation. This could lead us to believe that the amount of skin shown doesn’t necessarialy equate to the amount of sexual violations.

So, in the US, many people still try to act like it’s the early 1900’s. Well, on the surface at least. Companies regularly advertise “erection enhancement” medication or condoms on TV and in magazines. Sexual products comprise the majority of spam email. Schools make an attempt to teach “sex-ed” classes. Religious organizations remind us that pre-marital sex is evil, and that procreation is the goal of sex once one is married (sometimes you hear a secondary comment regarding fun). Pornographic items are taboo, and if you’re caught looking at it at work, you are likely to be fired. Pornographic pictures/movies of yourself (if widely available) is a great way to get you fired so your company doesn’t have to associate it’s good name with “your kind” anymore. Strip bars/clubs are regulated to the point of extinction, and while that doesn’t work, they just make it as little fun as possible. However – this is how people like to pretend that sex doesn’t exist.

So what’s the big deal? Why is it that our governments feel we should be “protected” from all that horrible smut? Any type of nudity on TV or in the movies either gets edited out, or it gets a high enough rating so that children can’t see it. One statement that’s often made is to compare the US to many European countries. They regularly show nudity on TV, available to all ages, in reality shows, in commercials, and in some shows dedicated to sexuality. With this type of exposure (pun intended), would the US be able to cut back on some of our crazy sex offences? I think it would help. I believe that removing the mystique from nudity, while preaching sexual restraint to the merely curious, and trying to impart some morals, would work wonders for preventing corruption and crime. The FCC went ballistic when Janet Jackson had a “wardrobe malfunction” during the super bowl – I think they were merely reacting to the huge uproar from people who acted like showing one boob for 4 seconds was worse than showing a murder on-screen. But yet those same people don’t have a problem with cartoons made for kids that encourage disrespect towards their parents? I think someone’s got their priorities messed up…